The other day, I was telling a high school friend about some lessons I’ve learned in the past days, weeks, months; and she told me that in the coming days, there’s going to be more. Well, she was right, there is indeed more to learn, and the time that we say we might have stopped learning may well be the time that we have stopped living.
A few weeks back I have made a decision for myself to let go of the anger/hatred I’ve been having towards a certain person. It wasn’t doing me, or anything else for that matter, any good so I’d just rather shrug it off than always have something to be annoyed at. The person doesn’t even seem to care at all so it was just merely stupid to continue. It was a good decision on my part since I believe a lot of things have changed since I did that. I am learning to accept the fact that life is not always fair. It won't always side with you; you won’t always get what you want. Well, you probably would, but not always when you want it to. As the saying goes, patience is a virtue; and letting things happen in their own way is sometimes a good thing too. And the changes that you want to happen should start from yourself, not from other people, but through your own decisions. I am not at 100% yet, but is so much more than how I was before.
Yesterday was kind of a test. Before, if I was to talk about that person, I would just get irritated. But yesterday, I was laughing off the things that we were talking about that involved that person. I think I deserve a pat on the back there. Then according to another friend of mine, it’s better to miss the memories than to miss the person himself/herself because people change, but memories don’t. (Exactly the reason why they’re called memories, right?) But isn’t it that if you miss the memories, then you eventually miss the person too? Or you just miss the person he/she was in those memories?
We can’t live on memories alone for we have to face the realities of life. Memories are just reminders of what you have shared with the other person, that once in your life they came along. People may have changed but who knows, it could be for the better; we just see it in a different way because we are not involved in it anymore. Besides, you have perhaps changed too for all you know. They may have changed at the expense of people who love them the most, but that’s the way they want to live their lives. Are you going to live your life the way other people want you to live it?
They have made their decision, you have made your own, and probably it’s just time that the both of you share what you have to other people who could be more deserving of what you can give. Acceptance is a b***h sometimes but we have to face it, and once we’ve done it, good things would come.
Memories won’t be memories for nothing; but do remember too that you cannot bring back the past or what is already done. You could remember it, you could miss it, and you could learn something from it. You are lucky if you’re given the chance to create memories again with that same person. But other than that, just keep it in that special place. Everything and everyone changes, for if you don’t then what have you been doing with your life?
Living is a journey. It is in the journey that we get to experience different circumstances where we learn the ways of life. There is an adventure waiting everyday. We commit mistakes and we savor triumph. Experience is indeed one hell of a teacher, as we also learn from our faults and be humbled by the accomplishments we’ve worked hard for. Amidst the vagueness of our voyage, the destination and where we came from should not be put aside. They should serve not just as our goals but as our inspiration to strive and be successful in all our endeavors.
The things we do will define who we are and what we’re going to be. We are given the freedom of choice so that we may use it for our own good. We must use it responsibly as every decision has its pros and cons. Create your own story; make the most out of every journey, and let it be a good one. Bon Voyage!
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