think rainbows

February 10, 2010


I’ve read a blog post yesterday about how sometimes you feel bad for someone who’s having problems, and all you’d want to do is help that person but you just can’t. It’s either they don’t want any help at all, or you just can’t help them because you don’t know how. I’ve related myself so much to this post because right now, I’m feeling the exact same thing.

There are times when people want you to mind your own business, or just don’t think about them and just leave them alone. Especially when they’ve got big problems on their shoulders, and they think that they can handle it themselves, and they want to actually handle it themselves because they don’t want to bother other people with their own problems. How big the problem may be, or how bad they might be feeling, they don’t want you feeling bad for them too. It’s like they’re shutting you out because they don’t want to give you something to think about or worry about. Well that sucks, at least for me.

For anyone who’s got friends or loved ones who have problems, the first thing that comes to our minds is how can I help them, or what can I do to help them? How can I at least make them feel better? How can I at least lessen the burdens that they’re carrying, and make them feel that they’re not alone? That there’s someone who wants to help them, who wants to be there for them, and who’s willing to help them. How will I be able to do that from a distance? And how will you be able to help if they’re not even asking for any help?

I know it sounds kind of “makulit” or “usisera” or “mapilit” but I think nobody should handle their problems alone. Or at least, let other people help you in other ways, if you don’t want them meddling with your own problems. Surely you’ve got to figure the solution yourself, but at least let them be there. You don’t have to shut them out, or shut yourself out from them just because you don’t want them feeling bad for you, or worrying about you. You don’t have to be alone because nobody wants to be alone. That’s why you have your friends and family. Talk to them at least, tell them your problems. Don’t hesitate to ask for their help because they are more than willing to help. It’s their job to worry about you and feel bad when you feel bad. It’s their job to make you feel better when you’re feeling down. It’s their job to be there for you at all times, or at least try to be. And at least, let them do their job because they want to do it. Just at least let them be there for you, and remember that they're around you. It might make you feel a whole lot better.